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Comment on How to Deal With Toxic People by Resigned2

Resigned2 — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 14:23:16 +0000

Well, now I’ve read what appears to be my daughter’s playbook. I have a severe illness of depression which I have spent 25 years trying to get treatment for.

But now I have a name for who I am and why my 37 year old won’t talk to me. My illness makes me “toxic”. She isolates herself from me when I need her the most. Her playbook is now clear to me – I am not sick with a “real illness” – I’m just “toxic”.

I’ve raised six self-reliant adult children. I don’t need anymore therapy or medications – I need a rope to hang my toxic self… According to your article, there is no hope for me except to relieve others from having to be around me.

I’ll never be posting or even looking for help again… When I’m buried – everyone will thank you…

Comment on The Truth about Being Weird by colby

colby — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 07:25:13 +0000

i have never attempted suicide but i have been about ten seconds away from it. ive been through times where ive continuosly thought about killing myself. this makes me unbearably weird? let me tell you that i firmly belive that i have right to those feelings. its not my faulti felt them. its sad to me that somonelike yo i giving anyone else adve.

Comment on Overcoming an Inferiority Complex by overcomer

overcomer — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 03:12:15 +0000

i want to say that inferiority complex also is brought about as a result of one deformity or the other while a child is grwing up,this in turn creates a low self esteem in the child wherby he sees his/herself inferior to others…..so he or she tries to avoid coming close to people or doing something in common with them,have also discovered that at the end of this this set of people authomaticallt turns out quiet and reserved not because they are dumb,this set of people often get static in life not because they dont knw the way foward but because they cant afford to face accept themselves for who they really are….

Comment on How to Deal With Toxic People by Emma C

Emma C — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 01:09:49 +0000

My in-laws are very toxic, especially muy MIL…she just brings problems between my husband and I, and mu husband does NOT seem she is toxic. She insists to keep in touch with me, why? Are we friends? She has offended me several times in my own house…I am setting boundaries but she does not accept them and calls me all the time….i don’t answer her calls and she plays victim and with my husband and then we fight…..is it unreasonable to not call her or get her calls? I am just avoiding a toxic person but I am seeing as a bad DIL because of that!!!

Comment on How to Start a Conversation by Kosta

Kosta — Sun, 19 Feb 2012 09:32:07 +0000

Hello Ed,

I’ve been reading all your articles and I must say, Wow, just amazing.

However, I would deeply appreciate it if you could make a piece on controlling and reducing anxiety. I am curious on what your thoughts and methods are in that particular area.

Comment on How to Deal With Toxic People by Annette O

Annette O — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 15:31:24 +0000

I am happy to have come acros this article. I am currently “recovering” from a life-long toxic friendship. After decades of feeling I couldn’t escape the friendship, I have finally ended it. I have struggled with guilt for wanting out, guilt for setting boundaries on my time as an alternative for wanting out. I have exploded in anger time and time again, we have had long periods where we weren’t in touch, she has contacted me and we have started over. This has been going on for decades. I have accepted continuing a friendship that was unequal, demeaning and very harmful to me.
I have been talked down to, ridiculed, I don’t think she has ever asked me an interested question regarding my life. She has been jalous of my other friendships, demanding to be part of every aspect of my life. I lost my parents at a relatively young age, not one comforting word, no display of interest during those many years of illness and grief. It was all about her. I have listed to her putting others down, I have listed to a display of stupitity and arrogance – if I tried to say something, oppose, defend others – she directed her anger at me.
I have to take responsibility: I let it go on for so long. I remember the feelings of not seing a way out of it ,,, vividly. I felt like the worst person on earth for wanting an end to it, despite all the maliciouness. All those years with speculations and being treated poorly just because I did not take myself seriously and was afraid of the confrontation, I guess. What an incredible waste of life. And I am ashamed – how could I accept that behaviour from anybody?
But before anything else, I am relieved. It’s been almost a year, but still I think of my former friendship once in a while. I can’t understand her or people like her. What is going on, what is she thinking about the lack of interest, the passive-agressive behaviour, the jalousy, the hatefull remarks . What was it about? I know when I am not being fair, attentive, a good friend. I am not afraid to say I am sorry ,,, I have my flaws and not so appealing traits – but I am aware, try to do better – and I would not dream of hurting anybody deliberately. Don’t people like her know it (lack of some sort of social skill, stupidity perhaps ) or is it deliberate, calculated …. meanness?

Comment on Overcoming an Inferiority Complex by Lucky

Lucky — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 12:53:46 +0000

I am an unfortunate victim of Inferiority Complex for so long a time now and it has horrifically suppressed my natural abilities. I believe this scrutinized procedures provided here will assist in defeating this plague in my life.

Comment on 6 Signs That You’re Socially Awkward and How to Fix This by Alice

Alice — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 04:05:17 +0000

I find that people don’t care so much how “socially awkward” you are when they see that you’re a “good” person. Be nice, be friendly, show some respect, spread some love. It may be difficult in the beginning but with enough practice you will learn how to communicate better.
Alice´s last post: Managing Different Interests

Comment on How to Impress a Girl by karan sharma

karan sharma — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 06:19:07 +0000

there is a girl n she is already in a relationship with my friend…bt i luv her a alot more than any body…and i purpose her but she say’s no to me n ne i need thal girl because now i can’t live without her so plz give me solution how i get her….

Comment on People Skills and the Philosophy of Honesty by Alisha

Alisha — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 10:21:50 +0000

Honest people grew up with convictions, guided by what older people have imparted to them. No matter how competent a person is, if he is not honest with his dealings, it means he is not a good employee. It is as simple as that.