Comments for People Skills Decoded http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com Sun, 07 Sep 2014 14:01:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0 Comment on How to Deal with Controlling People by Samantha c http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-deal-with-controlling-people/#comment-710748 Sun, 07 Sep 2014 14:01:42 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=1436#comment-710748 Hi, just came across your site when Googling, “Very controlling people”… So glad that I read this and agree with your suggestions/conclusions. My boss’ boss has finally revealed her cards to me (it’s been difficult figuring her out), as she was once an ally.. And now I figured out she’s most definitely NOT. I sent an email out to her and other managers to stop their covert bullying of me through emails and got basically a lie and blame towards technology for the excessive emails and threads to me – in front of everyone. My boss, while he is not directly involved, has been passive about the whole thing. While I realize I can’t call her on her bluff (or others), I do a good job at my work and I know she wouldn’t want to fire or let me go over trivial means like this – after all, I help her look good. So I’m just going to start showing up late to meetings, not respond to her mtg RSVPs, etc. I used to be one of her strongest advocates and this is just petty, grade school behavior on hers’ and the company’s culture. Hopefully I can wait it out till next spring for a new job, but yeah.. I agree that staying expressionless, having firm boundaries of not putting up with bullshit and not saying anything is the best way. Thanks for your blog.

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Comment on Stop Trying to Control Your Emotions! by Mera http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/stop-trying-to-control-your-emotions/#comment-705777 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 03:56:03 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=775#comment-705777 This article is exactly what I was looking for. I am sick to be told to control my emotions. But MY emotions are what makes me who I am. I refuse to be a robot in control of my own self.
Thank you to the author.

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Comment on 6 Signs That You’re Socially Awkward and How to Fix This by Elle http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/socially-awkward/#comment-704346 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 03:14:46 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=2827#comment-704346 I’m 18 and have only ever had one boyfriend for about four months. I found that he often tried to take advantage of my introverted nature, thinking he could do/say whatever he liked and I wouldn’t do anything about it. Since we broke up (I was about 16), I’ve had hang-ups about dating again because I fear that even if the next guy seems nice, he will ultimately do the same thing. I’ve experienced similar things with former friends who have shown a cruel, exploitative streak when they realized I was soft-spoken and socially awkward (like saying very hurtful things disguised as jokes). For me, even finding friends and family members who understand my personality is like finding gold, so I wonder how much more difficult it will be to find a partner who loves and does not exploit the parts of me that might not be so appealing.

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Comment on Jobs for Shy People: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly by Blippety http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/jobs-for-shy-people/#comment-700965 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 19:07:56 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=2986#comment-700965 Thanks for this; I’ve recently realised I’d love to be a police officer, but I’ve been worried that I wouldn’t be able to cope with a job like that because of my shyness. I’m working to overcome my shyness now by putting myself into more social situations.

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Comment on 6 Signs That You’re Socially Awkward and How to Fix This by andrew http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/socially-awkward/#comment-700049 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 03:56:59 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=2827#comment-700049 Reading some of these comments really hits home for me. I feel where you are coming from because I have been there. (Not saying im not socially inept anymore I definitely am) Dont ever give up if you feel hopeless because your not alone. One of the worst things you can do is get depressed over it. Just remember that tomorrow is another day a new chance to change and take a step forward. Eventually you will get to where your going.

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Comment on Dealing with an Attention Whore by Bella http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/dealing-with-an-attention-whore/#comment-696130 Sat, 30 Aug 2014 10:49:04 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=2330#comment-696130 Great article, lots of helpful tips. I do disagree that shy people are jealous, it’s mostly an energy thing. Shy people cannot take it any more after a while and then they snap. AW eat every bit of energy that you’ve collected for the day, 10 min and you ‘re depleted.

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Comment on “Why Do People Stare At Me?” A Qualified Answer by Jay http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/why-do-people-stare-at-me/#comment-661902 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 21:40:56 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=3175#comment-661902 For me its my Afro that gets me the looks, I like my hair but if I’m with friends around town, shopping or Because I’m shy it can sometimes make me feel really awkward ecspecially the faq’s I get from total strangers about how I get it to stay up this is REALLY awkward.

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Comment on How to Be Witty by roberto http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-be-witty/#comment-613359 Wed, 30 Jul 2014 15:09:39 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=2914#comment-613359 thanks a lot for your wonderful explanations..that was so useful :)
regards
Roberto

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Comment on “Why Do People Ignore Me?” The 4 Potential Explanations by Jaque http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/why-do-people-ignore-me/#comment-608572 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 23:12:25 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=3370#comment-608572 I know I’m introverted but always make an effort not to come of as standoffish or rude but I always feel like I’m invisible when in a gathering of more than three. I feel like I could say anything like “I just killed my family” or something equally ridiculous and still get no reply. I am at that age now where I don’t care about other people’s opinions and don’t really want to impress people just to get them to talk. I have noticed that most gregarious people are insincere and seem to be wearing a mask. I now subtly people-watch at parties and I feel as though I can see through the disguise people wear.

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Comment on How to Deal with Controlling People by chuck http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-deal-with-controlling-people/#comment-603771 Wed, 23 Jul 2014 09:21:10 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=1436#comment-603771 what if you found out you’re a controling person and feel bad and want to change how do you fix that? like how do you not be controling by using emotions for your advantage.

i have bad depression and i found out that i tend to over react when people don’t message me / talk to me and i think they’re mad or hate me i used that oh gues you don’t love me thing before without realizing it even though i was really hurt… idk what’s wrong.. do i have a problem? someone very dear to me told me she felt uncomfortable with me becase i kept making jokes about pervy stuff even tho she did it to and was ok with it . .. i feel sorry for what i did she’s had past experiences with controling people and stalkers and we both had experience with depression.. so we understand one another.. it got to the point where i over reacted so much that i nearly broke our friendship because of the drama… how do i stop doing this? how do i fix my drama causing ways calm down and not control people..

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