Comments for People Skills Decoded

Comment on How to Be Witty by Eduard

Eduard — Sun, 19 May 2013 15:34:22 +0000

Very well put Julian. Yup, interpreting a statement literally is one of several very useful techniques for generating humor. I love it because it’s easy to use, provided you actually pay attention to the words the other person says and you have some presence.

Comment on How to Be Witty by Eduard

Eduard — Sun, 19 May 2013 15:32:24 +0000

Lol

Comment on How to Be Witty by Eduard

Eduard — Sun, 19 May 2013 15:32:07 +0000

Thanks, I’m glad you found it useful. The thing is that when you try to be funny, you put pressure on yourself, and this rarely makes you funny. I find that building your confidence is the best way to relax in social settings instead of putting pressure on yourself. Which is why I write a free social confidence newsletter, which you can join here: http://www.socialconfidencesecrets.com

Comment on How to Be More Outgoing by Eduard

Eduard — Sun, 19 May 2013 15:25:55 +0000

Day by day is definitively the approach in dealing with an axiety related issue. You can try to simply get out of your shell completely all of a sudden, but it rarely works. Learning how to be more outgoing and becoming so is a gradual process and assistance from the outside can help immensely. I’d love to help you further with this, so I suggest you get on my newsletter, here: http://www.socialconfidencesecrets.com

Comment on How to Be More Outgoing by Eduard

Eduard — Sun, 19 May 2013 15:22:43 +0000

Hi Amanda,

I realize it may be difficult for you. But I say this drawing from a lot of coaching experience and personal experience: you can overcome this and be more outgoing.

Just trying to go out more may not be enough for you though if your anxiety level is high. You need to combine this with some cognitive work for changing some of your automatic thinking patterns. I suggest you get on my free social confidence newsletter, where I share specific psychological techniques for doing this. You can join at: http://www.socialconfidencesecrets.com

Comment on How to Stop Being Shy by Eduard

Eduard — Sun, 19 May 2013 15:17:47 +0000

I now the feeling of not being interesting enough Paty. I used to have it. But really, it’s mostly a limiting belief. And you can overcome it. Have you joined my social confidence newsletter yet? I write articles for it about changing your self-image regularly.

Comment on How to Stop Being Shy by Yosuoyo

Yosuoyo — Thu, 16 May 2013 23:32:29 +0000

I’m very shy at school. I’m always mute. (I HYATE TO ADMIT THAT) At home I’m not shy at all. I’m always happy and very loud. Like my neighbors told me to shut up lol. But at school it’s different. I feel like they’re all just staring at me and how weird I look and the way I am. I guess i don’t have confidence at school. Whenever I talk they’re like “OMFG, she talked!!!” I HATE it absolutely. Whenver I’m just trying to fit in, they just ruin it. I’m always talking in my head. Nobody is listening and nobodys judging me inside my head. I liked it that way but now it’s just starting to bug me. “OMG, look at her! OMG she talked!” Screw that. Im just trying to fit in. Now that I say more and more, it’s never gonna help me at all. I don’t like the words, “quiet and shy”. I hate it., I’m like the only one who has a problem with this. I don’t know but I’ll try to get more confidence to myself at school. “school”.. Yeah like I’m ever gonna fit in. People these days are so annoying. I HATE EVERYBODY. Honestly! AND don’t judge me!!! (AND I DONT HAVE ANGER ISSUES) Sorry but just sharing.

Comment on How to Stop Being Shy by Jezza

Jezza — Tue, 14 May 2013 03:05:26 +0000

Im very shy…mainly because when i do talk, people are so used to me not talking to them that they make a huge deal put of it. They say “omg she talked, guys come over here and listen! She said something!” Like im a freak. And im just over here like well yea im not mute! I also can relate to the over thinking leads to nervous thing definantly!

Comment on How to Stop Being Shy by onzie

onzie — Fri, 10 May 2013 11:45:21 +0000

im like almost out of my shell at school, im talking more now, and i stop blushing, but for sum reason shyness seems 2 craw back on me im like wtf is going on. but the thing thats really wierd is that @ home im not shy for sum apperent reason idk, can sum1 help me its like im hanging on by a thred of getting out of my shell 4ever……

Comment on “Why Do People Stare At Me?” A Qualified Answer by aime

aime — Thu, 09 May 2013 11:58:27 +0000

Just in general, your appearance doesn’t have to be unkempt or sloppy for it to be attention grabbing. You could just have interesting clothing/hair or nontraditional piercings or something along those lines. I think it’s silly to say attention-grabbing folks don’t care about their appearance; there are so many varieties of reasons to dress differently. Some people just like to express themselves outside traditional clothing.