Comments for People Skills Decoded Tue, 30 Jun 2015 03:58:52 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on ‘I Have No Friends’ Help by Chelsea Tue, 30 Jun 2015 03:58:52 +0000 I’m a 22 year old that graduated college last year. The same week I had my graduation ceremony, the group of friends that I had made collectively decided to kick me out because I wasn’t nerdy enough for them- I played video games like they did, but I didn’t do it religiously like them, because I also studied and performed regularly. I haven’t gotten over that yet it still hurts. It’s not the first time I got overlooked because I don’t devote myself wholly to one thing, either- it happened a lot in high school, too.

Then I tried to make friends with my coworkers when I got a full time job, but I have absolutely nothing in common with any of them, and it hasn’t worked out. Now I’m really afraid to try to make friends, and I don’t know where to start, precisely because I do a little bit of a lot of things, and that has cost my before. But, u like to sing, and draw, and write, and bake. What do you think I should do? Where do you think I should go to try and meet new people, now that I’m not in college anymore, and how do I keep myself from getting overlooked by others like I have been?

Comment on How to Stop Being Self-Conscious by John kimbell Tue, 23 Jun 2015 02:07:02 +0000 If I were to succeed, it would allow me to take advantage of the many opportunities I have with every person I meet by the dozens every week. I most often make a good impression, I am an imposing figure, I dress well and people will approach me seeming eager to know me. Then I ruin it by talking in excess but always about myself, as though they weren’t even there.

Comment on “Why Do People Ignore Me?” The 4 Potential Explanations by Erik Wed, 17 Jun 2015 18:46:37 +0000 I’m sad that people I want to talk to and care for seem to ignore me…I’m always first to take the initiative to write or call them, they won’t even respond me…Maybe I should cut the ties off from them…

Comment on “Why Do People Stare At Me?” A Qualified Answer by Sara Sat, 06 Jun 2015 23:08:56 +0000 In some part of the world or country, where people are narrow minded, no well educated, stupid and self absorbed…they stare at people. According to them, they are superior. In face, it is inferiority is sugar coated with superiority crap. In low cultured societies, people stare more. They make it their business to tell people what to do, how to dress and how to behave…deep down it is all fear base behavior that they stare at other people. They are ignorant. Be like me or I make fun of you, this is their believe. They don’t know better. Just recently, I was in Tennessee and a woman from her car pointing towards me and saying laud that what is she thinking, she is wearing a warm vest in this heat and she was making fun of me in that thick Southern accent. When you consider the source, you know it doesn’t matter what they say or do. In most part of India, especially villages, people make fun of my sun visor. They call it a topee, meaning hat, in some other part of the world people are wondering, why I wear sneakers. They think sneakers are only for men. Women should wear high heal or some kind of feminine looking shoes…
It doesn’t really matter!

Comment on ‘I Have No Friends’ Help by Daniela Wed, 03 Jun 2015 00:32:05 +0000 I’m finding this years later but want you to know that I care. Please know that you haven’t disappointed anyone or that your life doesn’t matter. I am truly sending lots of wishes your way for the peace and happiness you long for. I truly understand.

Comment on What Makes a Good Leader? by Judy Caroll Fri, 29 May 2015 08:41:51 +0000 Hello Eduard.

I believe that everyone can be a leader. Even in the simplest
things that we do, no matter what it is. People should consider
that what you do can help them to further develop themselves.

We must know what type of work field
we prefer to engage in and then be
aware of the mission and vision of the
organization so that we won’t lose sight of focus.

The 5 traits that you’ve discussed were really a
part-to-do to make yourself a good leader not
in the way that we look into ourselves, but
in the way that our employees and people
around us look into what we have done.

I’m glad that I’ve found this article. Thanks for sharing.


As in the movie “Spiderman” says,
“With great power, comes great responsibility.”

Comment on How to Be Friendly by Grace Wed, 27 May 2015 16:30:03 +0000 I have a real social issue. I don’t have much social skill I’m shy I’m so uncomfortable around pple especially in a setting where you have to introduce yourself I feel so inferior I can’t handle anyone making fun of me, I’m a nurse I can hardly hold my job because I would think they don’t approve of me or I’m not doing it right, in short I’m messed up emotionally. Im willing to change I want to feel good about myself and life I just don’t know how.
I’m married with 2 kids yet I don’t talk much and Husband says I don’t love him nor do I act like his friend I can hardly show any of my feeling or trust anyone so much I’m not happy feeling this lonely in life.
I like to say I grew up being yell at being told all sort of degrading things from mother and my only brother was a bully that will tell me I can not do anything right short me down, beat me and make fun of me infront of everybody I lost interest in life and people. I kept to myself, I became angry and shy away from any social thing I would rather be by myself and not say a word to anyone.
I know this much story but I feel like I need to tell why because i was not born this way i became this because of growing up in an environment devoid of love. I need help to overcome Especially my inferiority feeling it’s killing me and I don’t want to raise my kids to be like me.

Comment on Avoidant Personality Disorder by Bipin Mon, 18 May 2015 13:38:07 +0000 I came across the term AvPD just four days ago . I was researching about my apparent failure at almost everything . Since than i am trying to figure out how to come out this mental logjam.

Comment on Good Comebacks When Someone Makes Fun of You by Katie Sun, 17 May 2015 02:38:57 +0000 Interesting. However, I come across insecure men from a male dominated culture who want to find an insecurity or weakness in me they assume, and mock me. Older man, unhappy separated not much in any department kept saying to me – oh you’re old now/ you’re getting to be a hag. Me ignoring it didn’t stop him. Me calling it out only made him deny it. If friendships are ruined then this one was ripe for it. I steamed but kept quiet thinking – he’s so weak he needs to drag me down to be able to relate to me. This kind of mockery is common in some cultures. Ignoring it saved me my mental energy and peace. There’s no comeback to such behaviours. A reply only helps them feel significant. That you heard felt got affected and your response is an indication of your willingness to engage him in this battle. He will win. He’s done it all his life because he’s just insecure. Only victory in my opinion was for me to smile not respond not retaliate not remind him he’s way older than me himself. He lost interest eventually. And picked on another part of me. I ended the friendship. It’s one thing to exchange friendly humour. But it put downs like that – no. Also avoid self derogatory humour. People end up believing you are actually worth derogatory behaviours and will see it as an open door to doing it to you.