Comments on: How to Give the Really Negative Feedback to the People Who Really Can’t Take It http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/ Fri, 03 Feb 2012 14:56:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Eduard http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1598 Eduard Tue, 15 Jun 2010 11:15:36 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1598 Oooh, I forgot about this one. Yes, I think it can help a lot. Besides, almost everybody will reply positively to your question, and then you have that person trying to take your feedback as well as possible. Oooh, I forgot about this one. Yes, I think it can help a lot. Besides, almost everybody will reply positively to your question, and then you have that person trying to take your feedback as well as possible.

]]> By: J.D. Meier http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1596 J.D. Meier Tue, 15 Jun 2010 06:14:34 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1596 One of my colleagues shared a simple approach with me. He now asks for permission up front -- "Do you want some feedback?" He found that simply by asking first, he sets the stage for more effective feedback. .-= J.D. Meier´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SourcesOfInsight/~3/0MQxCnAsUhg/" rel="nofollow">3 Take Aways from The Karate Kid</a> =-. One of my colleagues shared a simple approach with me. He now asks for permission up front — “Do you want some feedback?” He found that simply by asking first, he sets the stage for more effective feedback.
.-= J.D. Meier´s last blog ..3 Take Aways from The Karate Kid =-.

]]> By: Eduard http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1569 Eduard Mon, 14 Jun 2010 15:31:48 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1569 Hi Moira, Yeah, nobody likes to be judged. Nonetheless, everybody needs to learn this. I think that pointing out behaviors and their consequences instead of making judgments when giving feedback helps a lot. Hi Moira,

Yeah, nobody likes to be judged. Nonetheless, everybody needs to learn this. I think that pointing out behaviors and their consequences instead of making judgments when giving feedback helps a lot.

]]> By: Moira http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1538 Moira Sun, 13 Jun 2010 15:41:03 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1538 Hi Eduard, Very interesting approach, I believe that the feedback process is always complicated, especially if involving negative ones of course. Feed backs are often considered "judgments" and people easily don't see the positive side of them Thank you for sharing your technique! Moira Hi Eduard,

Very interesting approach, I believe that the feedback process is always complicated, especially if involving negative ones of course. Feed backs are often considered “judgments” and people easily don’t see the positive side of them

Thank you for sharing your technique!

Moira

]]> By: Eduard http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1499 Eduard Fri, 11 Jun 2010 15:40:24 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1499 Hey Ralph, One thing I really like about remaining cool is that it often allows you to pull the other person in the same state. You can get pulled into her angry state, or you can pull her into your calm state. Either way, eventually people tend to reach the same state in a discussion like this. Hey Ralph,

One thing I really like about remaining cool is that it often allows you to pull the other person in the same state. You can get pulled into her angry state, or you can pull her into your calm state. Either way, eventually people tend to reach the same state in a discussion like this.

]]> By: Eduard http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1498 Eduard Fri, 11 Jun 2010 15:37:54 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1498 I agree Kate. In general, the emotional part of your communication in giving feedback is very important in my perspective. I agree Kate. In general, the emotional part of your communication in giving feedback is very important in my perspective.

]]> By: Eduard http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1497 Eduard Fri, 11 Jun 2010 15:36:01 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1497 You go Topi! And let us know how it went. Especially if that person started crying :) You go Topi! And let us know how it went. Especially if that person started crying :)

]]> By: Eduard http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1496 Eduard Fri, 11 Jun 2010 15:35:01 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1496 Yeah, that can help a lot as well. With any person. Yeah, that can help a lot as well. With any person.

]]> By: Ralph http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1492 Ralph Fri, 11 Jun 2010 03:48:32 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1492 I like the do not tip about losing your temper. Staying cool is a great way to avoid a conflict. If the person reacts badly, and you are able to stay calm, it will help them see that they are overreacting. Thanks for the insight. I like the do not tip about losing your temper. Staying cool is a great way to avoid a conflict. If the person reacts badly, and you are able to stay calm, it will help them see that they are overreacting. Thanks for the insight.

]]> By: Kate http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-give-the-really-negative-feedback-to-the-people-who-really-can%e2%80%99t-take-it/#comment-1489 Kate Thu, 10 Jun 2010 11:06:39 +0000 http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/?p=755#comment-1489 Keeping cool is an essential one, it can be so frustrating when there is something which seems glaringly obvious, you want to shake someone and they simply can't see it - the tempatation to really shout at them can be strong!! I was a little surprised (pleasantly so) by this post. When I saw the title I assumed it would be people who can't take it because they are likely to breakdown in tears at the slightest hint of criticism -they are hard to deal with too! Many thanks, Kate Keeping cool is an essential one, it can be so frustrating when there is something which seems glaringly obvious, you want to shake someone and they simply can’t see it – the tempatation to really shout at them can be strong!!
I was a little surprised (pleasantly so) by this post. When I saw the title I assumed it would be people who can’t take it because they are likely to breakdown in tears at the slightest hint of criticism -they are hard to deal with too!

Many thanks,
Kate

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