Comments on: Is the Road You’re On Really Necessary?

By: Eduard

Eduard — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 16:42:06 +0000

Well said Steve. That ladder on the wrong wall analogy made me laugh.

By: Eduard

Eduard — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 16:41:23 +0000

Hey Robin,

Welcome aboard! I think that ‘for me’ part is very important. When you put your own needs and likes in they equation, your perspective on what road to follow can change radically.

By: Steve - Prosper With Aspergers

Steve - Prosper With Aspergers — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:48:28 +0000

Eduard, very good point. Too many people climb the ladder to the “top”, only to find out that the ladder is standing against the wrong wall. Asking these questions at the beginning of the climb will save a lot of heartache in the end.
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By: Robin Alley

Robin Alley — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 16:21:50 +0000

Hi. I just read your article from another web site and decided to check out some more of your work. It’s really good and hits on key topics that effect a lot of people, if not all.

Anyways, I just wanted to point out the particular relevance of the second question — is this road necessary?

I had a very knowledgeable person point out to me that the incredibly challenging path I was on, albeit very noble and worthy, may not have been the best course FOR ME. And that’s a very important thing to consider. At first you’ll be taken aback, perhaps offended. But once you let that pass and give it more thought you may just realize your path is about to diverge.
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By: Eduard

Eduard — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 10:32:35 +0000

Ioana, I don’t think it was one moment. My awareness sort of grew slowly but surely. There were a couple of leaps, but most of them were triggered by conversations with very wise people, not by books or speeches.

By: Ioana

Ioana — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 07:46:54 +0000

When was your moment of clarity? I mean, when did you stop using patterns and started developing your own ideas and opinions? Was there a certain catalyst of some sort – a book you read, a speech you heard, or something like that?

By: Eduard

Eduard — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:27:56 +0000

Hey Marko,

I chuckled when I read what you said about television. How what you see in a commercial or movie became the main guide in deciding what you’ll do with your life amazes me.

By: Marko -- Calm Growth

Marko -- Calm Growth — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 18:54:34 +0000

Too many people get messages like (as you said)”The respect and validation of other people is the most important thing to strive for” that they never question this belief(s).

Many people have goals that are not theirs. These are the goals that they see on television. Literally. Without question, they accept such goals and intentions. And then they wonder why they are not happy.

I agree with your suggestion, we really should stop sometimes and examine our own beliefs and intentions.
.-= Marko — Calm Growth ´s last blog ..Why Some People Make Mistakes And Still Have Success =-.

By: Eduard

Eduard — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 15:27:29 +0000

Ben, I wish more people would lift their heads out of the rat race. I notice that a lot don’t even know they still have enough strength to lift their heads.

By: Eduard

Eduard — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 15:25:49 +0000

Hey Lumy,

I agree. Helping others is a good way to get appreciation and feel good. At the same time, even this can be a long or unnecessary road to get to our destination. We can learn to feel good without depending out how others feel about us.