“What do you want?” – I ask my coaching client.
“I want to advance in my field; to reach the top.” – he replies.
“Do you like what you do, in this field?”
“No, but that’s beside the point”.
I listen, I ask more questions, I try to understand him. Turns out he wants to advance in his field [...]
Is the Road You’re On Really Necessary?
Happiness Really Is in the Little Things
I’m on a train going to visit my parents. Next to me, there is this old lady with an enthusiasm to envy. She’s looking out the window and saying: “Look at all the trees! They’re so green! And look at all the beautiful houses!” I look at her attentively for a moment and I realize [...]
My Big Revelation about Improving Self-Confidence
My understanding about confidence and how to improve it, especially in relation with people skills, has evolved slowly but surely most of the time. But every once in a while, I had big leaps forward, rooted in personal revelations about self-confidence.
I want to share with you a big revelation I had a couple of years [...]
How Often Should You Check Your Email?
Depending on how you use it, email communication can be a way to interact effectively with people and make your work more efficient, or a major source for decreased productivity, stress and an early ulcer. Unfortunately, for many, it’s the latter.
As a communication coach, I am often asked be people looking to improve their business [...]
How Confident People Talk
I’m listening to the audio version of Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand. So far, it’s a fascinating book and I have an intuition it only gets better. One thing I like about the characters in Ayn Rand’s novels is how they are constructed in epic proportions. Some of them are pure models of confidence, dedication [...]
Why Being Yourself Is Hard and How to Actually Achieve It
‘Be yourself’ has got to be one of the most popular and attractive pieces of advice for people skills development these days. I think I read it or hear it almost every day. It’s one of those things people say instantly when they want to help you embrace your flaws, be more comfortable and more [...]
How to Give the Really Negative Feedback to the People Who Really Can’t Take It
One thing I find interesting about the people who have the biggest flaws is that very often they’re also the ones who have the hardest time seeing them and accepting them. If a person is a real pain in the ass, she probably sees herself as a really cool person, with awesome people skills, who [...]
Are You a Pain-In-The-Ass Person?
She calls me again. A business acquaintance of mine, who wants to partner up with me for this training, learning, changing the world project she has in mind. And again I say: “Thanks, but no thanks”.
The project is not the problem. It seems like a good idea. The person is the problem. I know from [...]
Good People Skills = Building Trust
This is a guest post by my friend Maria Dinu (Galca), who is an Effectiveness Coach. She works full time in HR for a Fortune 100 Company, and coaches in her free time. She blogs about how to better manage your life on LifeToolkit.net.
I pride myself with having worked with various types of people [...]
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