People Skills Decoded

For a lot of the people who know me or read my stuff, I have a sort of reputation as a debunker. A big part of my activity involves discovering and promoting some ideas for personal development and improving people skills, another big part involves showing the flaws in other ideas, to facilitate effective growth. [...]

I remember a conversation I had with a female friend who was telling me upset about a comment her boyfriend made related to her appearance: Her: “He said I have thick thighs. I can believe it!” Me: “I thought you wanted people to be honest with you. And he’s being honest.” Her: “Yeah, but c’mon: [...]

To a great extent, I’m a hedonist: I believe in doing the things you enjoy, maximizing your pleasure and not compromising pointlessly. At the same time, I notice that a lot of times, doing the things we enjoy is an ineffective way of running from the things which don’t work in our lives, a way [...]

One key area of personal development which I notice a lot of people are interested in is managing emotions. This interest has good reasons, as your emotions influence your options and your options influence your results. Plus, it just feels bad to feel bad. Managing emotions is also one of those key areas of personal [...]

Yes, the book is actually called “Asshole: How I Got Rich and Happy by Not Giving a @!?* About You”, and it’s written by Martin Kihn. I’ve listened to the audio version the past few days, and it quickly made the list of my favorite books. You can find other valuable info and reviews for [...]