People Skills Decoded

Me, I’m an oddball. I follow a healthy eating plan although I’m thin as a rail (which most people find strange), I believe in polyamory, and I often say some of the most retarded stuff you can imagine in conversations. Many of the persons I coach have this belief that they are weird and that [...]

In the last few years, I’ve given a lot of thought to the question: What makes one happy? I think there is a lot of variation, as each person is different, but there is at least one common thread. And that thread is good relationships. I think that, on the whole, the people with the [...]

Social confidence is the term I use to describe the type of confidence that concerns social situations and dealing with other persons. I think most people have a profound misunderstanding of what it takes to develop social confidence. The problem is that they treat social confidence like any other type of confidence, and they believe [...]

I think that one of the most dreadful feelings to have is the feeling that you’re running out of time. That life is passing by you and you’re not doing the things you want to do, you’re not living it the way you could be living it. Really, apart from physical pain, I can’t think [...]

I don’t believe in good language and bad language. I also don’t believe in good people and bad people. I’m not interested in broad labels and I try not to judge things or people based on them, but on factual results. Personally, I don’t have any problem with words like ‘fuck’, ‘shit’ and so on [...]

Do your work colleagues barely notice you when you enter the office? Does your boss hardly know your name? Do the people you hang out with have no clue what you’ve been doing lately? Do persons of the opposite sex pretty much ignore you? Chances are that you’re socially invisible. I am continually amazed by [...]

Some of the people I work with as a communication coach have a decent social life and they’re just looking to enhance it, while some will tell me right off the bat: “I have no friends and barely any social life. I need help.” When you’re in the ‘I have no friends’ class, you’re in [...]

A few years ago, I was learning to be more spontaneous in social interactions and practicing saying whatever popped into my mind without thinking twice. I ended up saying a lot of witty and creative stuff, combined with even more goofy and retarded stuff. I remember that during that period, there was one condescending comment [...]

This week I’m somewhere up in the mountains, delivering a communication and public speaking training. I can see snow and skiers out the window; it’s a pretty epic scenery. Today was speech delivery day. Each participant to the training delivered a speech and received feedback on it, from myself and from some of the other [...]

Some exciting things have happened this week (and it’s only Tuesday), two of which I think you’ll find particularly interesting. The Facebook Page The first thing is that I have launched the People Skills Decoded Facebook Page. It’s not an alignment with a fad, it’s something I seriously reflected upon and I decided to create [...]