Client: “I’ve always been lacking the confidence to speak up. In childhood, my parents were very harsh with me and would always criticize me when I opened my mouth. There was this one time when I was 9…”
Me: “Aham (cough)… I don’t really need to know that. Give me an example of how this lack [...]
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Beyond People Skills: My 3 Life Lessons
This article is written at the invitation of fellow blogger Abubakar Jamil, as part of the Life Lessons Series. You can find out more about this project and the people involved on his blog.
It’s a very enjoyable activity for me to look back at my life so far, at the experiences I had, to reflect [...]
Top 10 Lessons Learned From Coaching 100 People
I have recently reached the number of 100 coaching clients, which I have worked with individually in just under 4 years. It’s been an awesome learning and development experience, not only for my clients but also for myself. I feel like one big chapter in my career has closed and another one is opening.
Like the [...]
Is the Road You’re On Really Necessary?
“What do you want?” – I ask my coaching client.
“I want to advance in my field; to reach the top.” – he replies.
“Do you like what you do, in this field?”
“No, but that’s beside the point”.
I listen, I ask more questions, I try to understand him. Turns out he wants to advance in his field [...]
Happiness Really Is in the Little Things
I’m on a train going to visit my parents. Next to me, there is this old lady with an enthusiasm to envy. She’s looking out the window and saying: “Look at all the trees! They’re so green! And look at all the beautiful houses!” I look at her attentively for a moment and I realize [...]
My Big Revelation about Improving Self-Confidence
My understanding about confidence and how to improve it, especially in relation with people skills, has evolved slowly but surely most of the time. But every once in a while, I had big leaps forward, rooted in personal revelations about self-confidence.
I want to share with you a big revelation I had a couple of years [...]
How Confident People Talk
I’m listening to the audio version of Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand. So far, it’s a fascinating book and I have an intuition it only gets better. One thing I like about the characters in Ayn Rand’s novels is how they are constructed in epic proportions. Some of them are pure models of confidence, dedication [...]
Why Being Yourself Is Hard and How to Actually Achieve It
‘Be yourself’ has got to be one of the most popular and attractive pieces of advice for people skills development these days. I think I read it or hear it almost every day. It’s one of those things people say instantly when they want to help you embrace your flaws, be more comfortable and more [...]
Night Owl Lifestyle
Are you a ‘night owl’? Do you find it hard to go to sleep early at night and when you get up early in the morning it’s like you’ve been hit by a train? Join the team! Night owls are a minority of the population, but a significant one.
It is commonly believed that the sleeping [...]
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