People Skills Decoded

In the realm of courtship, knowing how to play hard to get matters. A lot. I’ve heard many people tell me that when they have to work in order to get the attention or sexual availability of a member of the opposite sex, they enjoy it considerably more when they get it. Like or not, [...]

Social confidence newsletter reader Mark asks: “I would really love to know what to say to a girl I like. There is this cute girl at work who often drops by my department with various tasks. She always smiles at me and I’d very much like to talk to her, but I don’t know what [...]

Note: You can now connect with me on Twitter and Facebook. Please do so. Any straight man, at one point or another in his life, will ask himself: “what do women want in a man?” And when he realizes he doesn’t truly have the answer, he’ll go searching for it. One of the most common [...]

Are you very sensitive to other people’s opinions? When someone says something negative about you, does it usually hurt a lot? When someone thinks badly of you, do you tend to mull over it incessantly? Then it’s crucial for you to learn how to not care what people think. It’s smart to take other people’s [...]

They say friendship is a lost art. I don’t know if that’s an overstatement, but as a social confidence coach, I do know that many people don’t truly grasp how to be a good friend. Their friendships are frail and superficial. They don’t last and they don’t provide the positive experiences they could. I think [...]

I believe the importance of friendship is something that simply cannot be overstated. Nevertheless, friendship is something that we as a society pay little attention to. We seek to make money, achieve success, find love and have a family, but we often mislay making friends somewhere in the category “and others”, which we’ll eventually focus [...]

If you’re shy, learning how to stop being shy, whether it’s around girls, guys or people in general could be one of the most important things you’ll learn in your entire life. Once you understand how to stop being shy, you can become more confident, connect with others better and have and enormous amount of [...]

Knowing how to be yourself in social interactions is essential for building a rich social life and rewarding relationships with others. And like many other people out there, you may need to learn, or better said, re-learn how to be yourself. Well, I’m gonna guide you on this path towards confident and authentic self-expression. The [...]

In the last few years, I’ve given a lot of thought to the question: What makes one happy? I think there is a lot of variation, as each person is different, but there is at least one common thread. And that thread is good relationships. I think that, on the whole, the people with the [...]

I was recently watching Mark Sisson’s talk about The Lost Art of Play. Mark, who is the author of The Primal Blueprint, takes an interesting viewpoint on playing. He says that play, in any of its forms, entails three key qualities: It’s not directed towards an outcome; It’s in the moment, and; It’s fun. So [...]