People Skills Decoded

Do your work colleagues barely notice you when you enter the office? Does your boss hardly know your name? Do the people you hang out with have no clue what you’ve been doing lately? Do persons of the opposite sex pretty much ignore you? Chances are that you’re socially invisible. I am continually amazed by [...]

If you’re a guy and you want more social and dating success, there are a lot of personal tweaks you can make to achieve this. Interestingly enough, I find that enhancing your look, which is a relatively accessible change to make, is an often ignored one. I’m not talking about your looks here; I’m talking [...]

One of the most popular questions among guys is: How to impress a girl?” The desire for men to be successful with the opposite sex is undeniable. Frequently, it is much stronger than the desire to make money, advance their career or live a healthy life. Considering this, I want to give you my perspective [...]

A crappy job is no joking matter. Unfortunately, a plethora of people are spending more than one third of their time every week, month and year, working in such a job. I’m not talking here about a job that’s just boring or unfulfilling. I’m talking about an entire work environment that’s psychologically debilitating. Think manipulative [...]

Make no mistake about it: knowing how to meet people is a skill that will, depending on your case, either save or enrich your social life. Like most of us, you may live in a huge human settlement, but that doesn’t necessarily make meeting new people easy. The essential benefit of knowing how to meet [...]

Some exciting things have happened this week (and it’s only Tuesday), two of which I think you’ll find particularly interesting. The Facebook Page The first thing is that I have launched the People Skills Decoded Facebook Page. It’s not an alignment with a fad, it’s something I seriously reflected upon and I decided to create [...]

I am a firm advocate of a rich social life, in terms of quantity and quality. I believe that knowing how to make friends is one of the most important people skills one can master. Most of the people I know who are truly happy with their lives nourish it with meaningful relationships and social [...]

Charisma is a sexy word and a sexy trait. I believe that knowing how to be charismatic can greatly enhance your relationships, your career and your social life, so I couldn’t pass up writing about it. What Is Charisma? Charisma is hard to define exactly, which is why, interestingly enough, many definitions will actually mention [...]

It cracks me up to see so many people who think that having a good general culture is a crucial thing. They believe they should know all sorts of stuff on a wide range of subjects including literature, art, history, geography and politics. Personally, I couldn’t have a poorer general culture (although I do tend [...]

One of the things I like about coaching is that it creates insights not only for the client, but also for the coach. I recently had a mind blasting insight during a communication coaching session about what is truly the worst job in the world. It’s not pool cleaner or pig farmer. It’s rather a [...]